Last night I commented on a friend’s blog. She was writing about the pain of being a widow and the cravings she has to be by herself sometimes (away from a pre-K child and one in kindergarten) and yet how she craves having the closeness of a partnership. I thought maybe this situation and commentary might apply to many of you so I’ll share part of it.
“Make a list of the qualities you want in the next partner that will come into your life. Hide it in a journal and refer to it from time to time. It will help you weed out the crazy-makers and it will solidify in your mind the next person you want to share your life with.
Then ask the rest of us to supply you with a list of all the great characteristics we think you have and tuck this into your pocket the next time you have to be in a room with couples. When you feel yourself tense up, reach into your pocket— refer to your list. A few years ago on my birthday a group of friends each listed 10 reason they were glad I was in their life. I posted them in my studio and on a “cloudy day” I refer to them and they give me the boost I need to move on.”
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